![]() Those who stand around taking selfies and posting #atthegym #workit and related, which, I'm not saying I don't sometimes take gym pics, but that's not my point for going and I'm not causing an obstruction or hogging machines when I do it. Those who take loads of equipment in one go when others want it and they can only use one thing at a time. Those who don't disinfect their equipment after use. ![]() Mansplainers and those offering unsolicited advice (always men). I don't judge what anyone's body looks like or what they look like when they work out, because why would I? I don't feel watched either. I had literally come full circle and without wishing to sound vain, I now feel like I'm "that woman in the gym that potentially make others feel judged or out of place there just because they're fit and confident"įor this reason and because I remember being on the other side of this, I'm always super-friendly to new members who are plus sized or look like they're feeling daunted or awkward, when usually/IRL and at the gym tol as a rule I'm not keen on chit chat or talking to people I don't know. Some (a very few, like three in total) have commented/stared at my visible scars, like inside my arms and up my stomach, but I don't care.Ībout eight months ago, a new gym member looking uncomfortable AF came up and asked me if I was name, not mine and when I said no, she asked if I was the trainer she was supposed to be meeting. I'm muscular but lean and have an hourglass figure, have had extensive post-weightoss cosmetic surgery to remove excess skin and so on, and I work out in hotpants and crop tops, because I built this body, and bought it, and nearly died for it in my first post weightloss plastics when something went wrong I came through the fire to get this, and I am proud of that, and I don't care what anyone else thinks, because I look good. Three years on from my first joining a gym while I was still signif overweight, I am in the gym five days a week three hours at a time. In fact, chief superfit gym girl was also actually superfriendly gym girl when she got to recognise you, and would chat to everyone and be really encouraging and complimentary of progress. Nobody ever made me feel watched, uncomfortable or out of place. I found the "superfit gym girls" as I called them in my head, super-intimidating just because they looked so good. I lost a tonne of weight (I lost more than the average person actually weighs over the course of 18 months via diet and exercise, no gastric op or magic pill or anything, but that's another story) but didn't join the gym until about eight months into my weight loss because I felt too self-conscious. Go burst some bubbles and make small talk. Granted, it doesn’t always work out but you never know. We’d share recipes and she asked me a lot about not eating meat (since I don’t). We went on a few bike rides and then began getting lunch afterwards. I offered my number and put the ball in her court so she wouldn’t feel like I was being pushy. I offered my cell and said they could text me if they ever would like someone to ride with and she texted me.įinding a friend is a lot like dating. They agreed and say they’d been meaning to get back into it. ![]() I then was explaining how I was trying to get back into exercising and how I was also planning to get back into bike riding and that I wanted to take advantage of my city’s bike rental program. ![]() I befriended someone because we were discussing water bottles and I was talking and explaining why I love my hydro flask. Complimenting their outfits or their hard work. Small talk like saying it’s nice to see them again and waving. Finding someone who looks similar to you is a good starting place, and small talk is your friend. Admittedly, befriending someone in a gym isn’t optimal. ![]()
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